Do you suspect that you may have a problem with alcohol? If so, you don’t have to wait any longer to make the change, and you certainly don’t have to wait for your family to give you an alcohol intervention. You may feel understandably reluctant to openly admit that you have a problem—after all, quitting is hard—but you’re not you’re not going to change your patterns until you’re willing to confront this head-on. The fact that you’re reading this is a sign that you’re making progress; now it’s time to back these thoughts with real action.

Think of it this way: if a close family member were having long-term difficulties with drinking, you’d probably want to give them an alcohol intervention, right? No one knows you better than you know yourself, so who better than yourself to confront you with the hard truths about your problem?

One of the things that makes alcohol interventions so valuable is that they show alcohol abusers that their habits do affect others, often in very negative ways. As the first step of your self-intervention, be honest about the harm your habit has done to yourself and others. In what ways have you and your loved ones been hurt? How has your life been set back? What important things have you sacrificed to support your alcohol habit? If it helps, write out a list of all your answers. Be as honest as possible.

Next, educate yourself about your options. If you don’t have any personal experience with rehab or alcohol treatment, then you may have some misconceptions about how it works. Read all the information you can about the philosophies underlying rehab and alcohol recovery, and then find out about treatment facilities in your area. After that, all you have left to do is start the ball rolling on your treatment.

The idea of giving yourself an alcohol intervention may seem a little crazy, but if you’re the only person who knows how serious your problem is, then you can’t rely on others to set you straight. Make the change yourself by admitting that you have a problem, taking stock of the damage it has done, and taking steps to seek treatment.