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- September 26, 2013 at 3:13 am#31084AnonymousInactive
Just found out our 14 year old daughter has been smoking some pot. She’s in 10th grade and good, good kid. We have a very good relationship and she actually shared with me that she was curious about it.
My wife and I have been sober for 20 years.
We have shared with her our concerns. We wonder how big of a deal we should make ofthis. I have already shared about it at my mens meeting.September 26, 2013 at 3:20 am#163697AnonymousInactive
What did your group have to say? I’m of two thoughts. Tell her absolutely not. You know what it is to become addicted; how it makes your life hell; drugs are BAD, etc.
However, you could push her into defiance and into trying more. I think you’re going to have to tread very, very carefully on this one. I wish you the very best of luck!September 26, 2013 at 4:01 am#163696AnonymousInactive
Watch the movie Alpha Dog with her. 😉 Have you seen it? Maybe it will cure her
curiousity.September 26, 2013 at 4:32 am#163699AnonymousInactive
I think it’s wonderful that she shared that with you. That says a lot about your communication with her.
That said, does she know about you and your wife’s recovery? If not, maybe its time to talk frankly with her about it.
For me, if this was the case with my son (who’s 15) I would calmly tell him that I know its out there, but that I expect more from him than that. I would also say, my house, my rules and drug/alcohol use will not be accepted. When he’s out of my house and an adult and taking care of himself, then he can choose to take any path that he wants.
Unfortunately, my son has seen me through alcohol abuse, and the one good thing that has come from it is a healthy fear of mind-altering substances for him.
KarenSeptember 26, 2013 at 11:19 am#163698AnonymousInactive
Merlot’s right. It was wonderful she felt safe enough to tell you.
Merlot thanks for some insight for myself. My oldest is 10, youngest 6, and while they don’t know (at least I think) when the time comes, I will certainly have an example of what not to do with drugs, LOL. My oldest already knows about my hospital stay, just not that they were detox, but if the time comes, I will lay it all out on the table to save her. Thank you again.September 26, 2013 at 7:07 pm#163700AnonymousInactive
Yes we haved shared with her and her older brother our stories and they have been to meetings with us.
The guys at my meeting reminded me that I’m powerless, and from my program I also know and believe that she also has a Higher Power, and we have shared this with her.
I would like some feed back on “the consequences of her actions”, from those of you out there who have had actual experiences, not opinions.
She seems sorry enough and I’m not nieve enough to think it won’t happen again.
Maybe my head is in the sand a little. Part of me thinks a little beer and pot never hurt anything, but at the same time I know they are gateway drugs.
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