I respect and appreciate hearing the perspective of those who ARE serious about recovery which is why I post here at times…
My AH sent me an email about 5 min ago and among many things told me that he’s now glad that we’re separating (and going to divorce) bc:
” it will b good for all of us if u and i were apart, i know i would be less guilty, anxious and stressed, which would give me time to reflect. Our house has become ill, and i dont know what to do now. “
To me this smacks of b.s. and sounds like he’s blaming me for his NOT taking recovery seriously. It also sounds like he’s taking words I’ve used (house has become ill) and is throwing them around without any meaning– just more ways to avoid personal responsibility.
I don’t know why this is making me so upset but it is– and if my interpretation is totally off, feel free to set me straight– I really don’t know what’s what anymore these days.