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- May 9, 2017 at 2:46 am#42772AnonymousInactive
Hello Fellow 12 Step National Meetings.Com Members,
The reason that I am writing this is because I feel a need to vent. My ex-boyfriend has been an alcoholic for over ten years. When I met him he was going to AA and managed to get 11 months of Sobriety under his belt. Then, after we had our daughter, he went back to drinking.
He has been going to AA for ten years, he said, and yet he still continues to drink. It seems to me like he uses AA as a revolving door, a crutch, or abuses that too. He knows that Alcoholism is a disease (there is no denial about that), but still wants to drink, because he is an “addict”. He just “has bad habits”. I feel that there is a thin line between a “DISEASE” (which is a health issue) and an “ADDICTION”. Sometimes I just get confused and wonder if being an Alcoholic is also an IDENTITY.
I just don’t understand how he can talk to other people over the phone about abstaining from Alcohol, and then drink himself. He tells me that I will NEVER figure him out.
Also, how can someone go to AA for TEN years, and still drink? “Maintenance is good,” he often says. He’ll stop drinking for a while and then start up again. It just baffles my mind.
I have been to so many AA meetings and there are OLD TIMERS who have been SOBER from 5-20 years, but he can’t do it or he won’t. But my main issue is how can somebody go to AA for over ten years and use it for MAINTENANCE instead of quitting drinking completely?
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