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- May 5, 2016 at 2:21 am#39197AnonymousInactive
I have an 18 yr old Authoritative defiant son who has been a challenge all his life and is now into weed and alcohol. He lives with his mom who is an enabler. I’ve tried to have him live with me as I’m his Dad and feel a responsibility to still guide him. But it always turns into a battle and I wind up kicking him out for breaking the rules. I lay down the rules, like no smoking in the house, no drinking, etc. yet he still does it. I’m trying to turn my own life around yet am heartbroken that I can’t seem to turn him around as well.
He’s been to numerous councilors and therapists and he only manipulates them to get the output to his liking. My ex says I’m not being a very good Dad for kicking him out and being so strict, but my thinking is that without tough love he won’t see the light of day. But here i am, struggling with my own demons with alcoholism and detox.
I’m on day 4 now and we had yet another blowout. I’m having DT’s and shaking and then then blowout I turned into a complete mess at work. Driving home I was seconds from pulling in and buying a 12 pack, but passed it by. But the guilt of him, and now the guilt of me being an alcoholic has me at a loss.
Wondering if anyone has had a similar experience and how they dealt with a situation like this. It’s so easy at this point to go back and kill the feelings again. But I don’t want to. I’m already walking My Path to recovery.
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