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- September 26, 2013 at 2:01 pm#31091AnonymousInactive
i don’t have a choice anymore, i need to stop and its not going to happen if i dont make the effort. but i have two questions:
1. i dont like aa at all, so what else could i do?
2. one of the reasons i havent quit is simply i hate the shaking and everything and the nausea, what can i do to reduce this?
xSeptember 26, 2013 at 2:03 pm#163772AnonymousInactive
1. I don’t know.
2. Detox should take place under a doctor’s care.September 26, 2013 at 2:47 pm#163788AnonymousInactive
Please understand that I am an alcoholic so I am not unsympathetic to your problem, but as to your objections to AA and the withdrawal process, it has been my experience that they come with this addiction.
My only suggestion is roll up your sleeves and do those things that YOU DON”T WANT TO DO. If the way out of this very deep hole called alcoholism was easy and fun I doubt it would be referred to as a disease, addiction, or even a problem.
Usually when we are faced with “life changing” decisions, the thing that we LEAST want to do is the very thing that we MUST do!
Good luck and get to work,
JonSeptember 26, 2013 at 2:51 pm#163775AnonymousInactive
1. maya there are other programs out there, none of them with the face to face darn near world wide meetings, but there are others.
On a personal note when I was drinking I hated AA with a purple passion, it was not until I had gone through detox and really wanted to stay sober that AA became even semi-palatable for me. At first it was not the program that kept me coming back, it was simply the people, they were more then friendly and likeable, that and they cared about me. The people in the rooms gave me hope that I to could stay sober.
Ask your self a question, what percentage of people with more then 30 days sober here have done it using any other program then AA? I am not knocking other programs at all, there are some darn good ones out there, but sadly none of them I am aware of have the face to face support that many of us need to recover.
2. Please see a doctor, detox can and does kill people.September 26, 2013 at 2:52 pm#163779AnonymousInactive
Reminds me of the old Meatload song off of Bat out of Hell.
I’ll do anything (but I won’t do that)
Like Jfangle said, yuo’re gonna have to do things you don’t want to do. Besides, what do your really know about AA ? How many meetings have you been to ?
As far as de-tox. Medical supervision is best. I did it at home, and it was hell. I thought I was going to die,and in retrospect I almost probably did. Just consider it a show of willingness to get sober. You gotta pay the price of admission to get in…..
Good luck to you. It’a long hard road, but so worth it in the end. And SOOOO much better than you life probably is right now.September 26, 2013 at 2:53 pm#163783AnonymousInactive
not everyone needs a doctor to detox though do they?September 26, 2013 at 2:53 pm#163782AnonymousInactive
I don’t use AA for sobriety. I have a therapist and mental health doctor I see, and I go to support groups 3 times a week through their office in addition to regular visits with both of them. I think you need to see your physician about detoxing and get his/her professional opinion.September 26, 2013 at 2:56 pm#163780AnonymousInactive
@maya23 1500115 wrote:
not everyone needs a doctor to detox though do they?
You really, really, really should see a Doctor.
My BP was 210/160. My heart rate was 160. I’m lucky I didn’t stroke out or have a heart attack.
Not to mention the physical agony…….It’s by far the worst thing pyhsically I’ve ever experienced.
A doctor will give you meds to calm the symptoms, watch your heart rate and BP, give you an IV for fluids if needed, and keep a close watch on you in case you convulse.September 26, 2013 at 2:57 pm#163784AnonymousInactive
i have a therapist and shes suggestd an alcohol support group but i cant go alone. im so so scared of all thisSeptember 26, 2013 at 2:58 pm#163781AnonymousInactive
Do you have access to any secular-based groups? (I’m assuming you don’t like AA because of the G*d stuff).September 26, 2013 at 3:01 pm#163776AnonymousInactive
not everyone needs a doctor to detox though do they?
No Maya they do not, but you really should see a doctor, I did not think I needed a medical detox when I saw my doctor, I told him the whole truth about how much and how long I had drank, he flat out told me I needed to be medically detoxed because it could kill me.
Like I said I did not think I needed medical detox, they pumped me full of blood pressure meds for the first 4 days of detox and unbeknownst to me they also had me on antisiezure meds, the 3rd day in was when my shakes overcame the meds and they had to up the antisiezure meds.September 26, 2013 at 3:09 pm#163785AnonymousInactive
but that means il have to tell my family…September 26, 2013 at 3:09 pm#163789AnonymousInactive
Consider this, some of us that are writing to you right now, can be found in AA meetings. There are a whole bunch more just like us in your neighborhood.
We HAVE to help you and be nice to you, because others before us were nice to us. Heck, when you walk in to the meetings you will already have at least one thing in common with everyone there. We are all alcoholics looking for a way out.
We have a chair saved for you, and you can leave anytime you want. Click on a few of the profiles of the people writing to you and you will see that it has worked for us. You may be surprised just how understanding people who don’t know you can be.
Please do see a Dr. regarding the detox thing; if the withdrawal kills you AA meetings won’t be your biggest concern.
JonSeptember 26, 2013 at 3:10 pm#163777AnonymousInactive
i have a therapist and shes suggestd an alcohol support group but i cant go alone. im so so scared of all this
maya call one of the support groups local to you and see if you can talk to someone who may be willing to at least meet you at a meeting or sit down some place like a coffeeshop and talk with you before going to a meeting.
I know for me the hardest part was simply walking into that room, once I got into the room I realized that all my fears were foolish, no one bit me, no one made me say anything, I sat in the back of the room and kept my mouth shut and listened. The only thing the people in the group did was introduce them selfs and welcomed me with open arms….. these people wanted to help me, they knew exactly what I was feeling, I was scared of being sober because I did not know how to be sober.
but that means il have to tell my family…
Do you honestly think that your family does not know you have a drinking problem?
Do you think your family would be happier to see you drunk or getting help?September 26, 2013 at 6:15 pm#163787AnonymousInactive
I do know how friggin scary this is. It’s still pretty darn fresh in my mind. Taz is right, do you honestly think that your family doesn’t know??? They know. They probably would love to hear that you are going to get sober! REALLY.
Honey, you can do this. Make an appointment with your doctor. Be honest with him/her. He can help you and give you suggestions on telling your family.
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