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- September 16, 2013 at 3:11 am#30990AnonymousInactive
Hi all just got home 3 days ago, last night my wife and i had a small argument she left and has not been home since. I see this as a excuse to get away from me for whatever reason, sure makes it hard to stay sober in a situation like this.
Any thoughts or whatever are really needed…September 16, 2013 at 3:42 am#160910AnonymousInactive
dear Problem child
I am sorry you are having a hard time. Do you go to AA? Do you have anyone’s phone numbers you can call ?
What are your feelings right now?September 16, 2013 at 3:45 am#160908AnonymousInactive
I do go to aa but this is just to hard to talk to someone that truly knows me right now..September 16, 2013 at 3:46 am#160913AnonymousInactive
I need more info please. Just got home from where? How long are you sober? Hang in there. There is nothing going on in our lives that a drink would not make worse.September 16, 2013 at 3:51 am#160909AnonymousInactive
I am usually gone 14 – 17 days i drive a truck. I have been sober 18 day’s and playing the guitar like never before……………………….. I think i need to pack my stuff and go she has not even called me.September 16, 2013 at 3:55 am#160914AnonymousInactive
Slow down! You are newly sober. Try not to make any major changes. Sometimes the people in our lives do not know what to do when we get sober. I strongly suggest you going to AA. It has helped me a ton! Get to know people at your club and let them get to know you. I can assure you that you are not the first one to be going through this situation. Hold on……..it gets better.September 16, 2013 at 4:29 am#160906AnonymousInactive
Gee….I am so sorry to see this situation
I do hope you are sober and sleeping
Prayers that you and your wife stay safe
and get thru this difficult time.September 16, 2013 at 11:56 am#160912AnonymousInactive
I gotta agree, get to AA and talk to someone, try to find an old guy, preferably with a cane. That way he can knock some sense into you!
Take it easy, slow down, take some deep breaths, and try to relax.
Dong anything rash and impulsive right now is likely to be wrong.
Hang in there, and know that we care,
TedSeptember 16, 2013 at 12:21 pm#160915AnonymousInactive
So sorry about your situation problemchild. Don’t know what to say except that drinking will just make things worse, but you know that already.September 16, 2013 at 3:55 pm#160916AnonymousInactive
problem…sorry ti is rough right now…We do hit tough spots in recovery…TRy to walk through it…When she calls or comes back…Be patient with her…Our recovery is a change for the entire family..
Prayers and hugsSeptember 16, 2013 at 9:53 pm#160907AnonymousInactive
PC….check in time!
🙂September 17, 2013 at 12:15 pm#160911AnonymousInactive
PC my whole family has had to recover from my drinking, if you are anything like me, when I would quit drinking and do nothing (Like going to AA and working the steps) to change myself I became a miserable jerk, I was always depressed because all I had done was quit drinking and all I was thinking about was how much I wanted a drink.
PC I was simply a drunk who was white knuckling sobriety, I was irratable as hell, I was angry with myself and the world! I would get mad at myself because all I could think about was how much I wanted a drink…… this always led to me drinking again.
Once I started working on changing the person I was from a drunk who was not drinking into a different person who had the urge/need to drink lifted from me I was a person that people did not mind being around.
I changed through the steps of AA with the help of other alcoholics who had done the same thing.
Will this save your marriage? I have no idea, but it will change you into a far better person. Take this one day at a time, accept what you have no conrol over and change what you do have control over, yesterday is gone and we have no control over it, the only control we have over tomorrow is what we do or do not do today. Today is the only thing we have control over and then we only have control over what we can change.
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