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  • #30935
    Anonymous
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    That’s where I am right about now. I spent the day applying online to a ton of jobs. Ton. There’s jobs that I applied to that I would’ve applied to right out of high school. Blockbuster. (not to knock anyone who works at Blockbuster).

    I’ve applied to soo many jobs. I’ve called to follow up. After three months, one interview. (and that was from a friend).

    I was driving out to get A from work tonight, and realized that I probably will never see the kind of money that I was making at my last job. Then, of course, I ran down what I did at my last job: moodiness, did things my own way, too much sarcasm, thought that I knew it all..etc etc etc. I really should have done a bit more butt kissing and then I would still have that job and be able to provide for my family.

    I”m not going to drink. I just feel like crap and its getting me down.

    Thanks for listening.

    Karen

    #160048
    Anonymous
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    (((((((Karen)))))))
    🙂

    #160057
    Anonymous
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    :sad2: Thanks Stone.

    #160046
    Anonymous
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    Well…
    I kept talking about my situation in meetings
    got several leads from other members
    and took the best one.

    Have you been doing this Karen?
    Double Hugs

    #160054
    Anonymous
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    Karen keep at it, it will come in time, there is a job out there for you, just keep looking, as Carol suggested talk about it before & after meetings, ask for leads, do not be afraid to try something totally new. Have you spoken to your sponsor? Check out your community college, some of them have work shops.

    #160060
    Anonymous
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    Does this sound familiar! I was fired after beginning my last drunk by the man I considered my mentor. He really had no opinion, I agreed if I drank I was done, but damn after several years one would think that others would forget. The whole job deal is draining, emotionally, financially and physically. I took a job in Austin, TX, not something I could easily drive to work to from Birmingham, AL. In order to get that job, I used and abused my career contacts; those folks I had spoken so poorly of in previous years to help me get my butt out of a crack. Online applications and resumes tend to be repositories of waste only. It’s like the lottery with them. I wish you a good day in your new life; the answers will come.

    R

    #160049
    Anonymous
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    Every moment I’m sober I’m a winner and so are you..don’t ever forget that.

    I use to make $1500 a week. After i got sober I made fractions of that,
    but i had more things.

    As much as i would like to make all the money again, i think at the
    rate i was going , it was going to be the death of me.

    #160059
    Anonymous
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    Merlotmamma – you’re not in looserville, you have something alot of “normal” people don’t have – you have the strength to look at yourself fair and square and do something about the things you don’t like.
    Anyway – I always made sure people liked me and thought I was doing a good job so that if I screwed up they wold forgive me and give me another chance – that didn’t work either, i still ended up jobless and since my house went with the job – I had to go home to parents after 25 years on my own.
    I don’t know your situation, but I started volunteering in education and gradually trained my way up to be able to teach. I then got jobs on my own merit because the people knew me – I didn’t have to beg.
    Maybe you could try something similar.
    It will come when the time is right for you.
    God bless

    #160056
    Anonymous
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    @merlotmamma 1478951 wrote:

    Then, of course, I ran down what I did at my last job: moodiness, did things my own way, too much sarcasm, thought that I knew it all..etc etc etc. I really should have done a bit more butt kissing and then I would still have that job and be able to provide for my family.

    Merlot,

    I’m sorry for the struggles you are having finding employment. I can relate to what you are saying. I’d like to gently give my opinion, based on my own experience in the workplace. I as an alcoholic and addict have had issues (even in sobriety) over the years working in teams and accepting authority (especially guidance in the form of criticism). For me a lot of it comes from underlying insecurities that cause me to want to be perfect the literature talks about this). This has invariably lead me to be a little difficult to deal with at work…ESPECIALLY when I am unsure of what to do or how things will turn out (because this means I have to ask for help and look vulnerable).

    The following things have helped me to become a little more employable:

    – work on stress reduction daily (yoga, exercise, diet, meditation, prayer)
    – become technically competent in my trade (this requires work, but builds a real confidence, rather then the fake-it-till-you-make-it kind)
    – smile more at work, engage in banter with co-workers, watch the facial expressions and breathing, learn to walk away and reflect.
    – stay sober

    I would also recommend that you do not see a lot of this as “butt-kissing”, most other people see it as being a team player.

    Mike

    #160058
    Anonymous
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    “I kept talking about my situation in meetings
    got several leads from other members
    and took the best one.

    Have you been doing this Karen?
    Double Hugs”

    Of course not Carol! lol. I will TRY and make an effort tonight to share..

    Thanks for the support guys.

    Mike..you are totally right.

    “I as an alcoholic and addict have had issues (even in sobriety) over the years working in teams and accepting authority (especially guidance in the form of criticism). For me a lot of it comes from underlying insecurities that cause me to want to be perfect the literature talks about this). This has invariably lead me to be a little difficult to deal with at work…ESPECIALLY when I am unsure of what to do or how things will turn out (because this means I have to ask for help and look vulnerable).” Thank you for putting it in a new perspective for me.

    I’m gonna keep trying..

    Karen

    #160053
    Anonymous
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    (((Karen))) There are no losers in recovery, only winners.

    #160050
    Anonymous
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    Hey Karen I am feeling your pain right now. In spite of having a couple college degrees and a good work history, I have had no luck finding a job. It seems that nowadays, a lot of companies do not even bother sending rejection letters anymore, which makes me feel even worse, because each time I send a resume I take the time to write a cover letter and tailor my resume for the job and then nervously hit the “submit” button..and to get no reply at all for my efforts makes me feel like I am in…loserville. Or invisible, which is worse. I just want you to know I understand how you’re feeling, and I really hope we both find good jobs, soon!! Hang in there, take care and good luck.

    #160051
    Anonymous
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    i don’t usually post on this board….i’m an “al-anonian”……but…..

    if you are sober, you are a huge winner!!!!!! each day sober is a victory and i’m proud ofyou.

    when the time is right, the right job will be there.

    jeri

    #160055
    Anonymous
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    Folks you know I am an idiot and must apologize for not thinking of this earlier, but many employeers find thier full time employees thru temp agencies.

    Employeers have learned that they can hire a temp and if they do not like them simply tell the temp agency they do not need them any more, if they do like them they keep them around until the end of thier agreement and offer them a job.

    Temp agencies are a win win thing for employeer & employee, if you get a temp assignment and hate the place just tell the agency you do not like this place and to find you another place, no black mark on your employment history because you are not wuitting the temp agency.

    #160052
    Anonymous
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    it’ll happen – leave no rock unturned! blessings, k

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