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- September 11, 2013 at 9:07 pm#30947AnonymousInactive
“The measure of your success usually comes down to who wins the battle that rages between the two of you. The ‘you’ who wants to stop, give up, or take it easy, and the ‘you’ who chooses to beat back that which would stand in the way of your success — complacency.” – Chris Widener
This has been quite true in my life. Especially in regards to recovery. There have been days when a part of me is tired, wants to throw in the towel, and take the “easy” way out which in the long run it really isn’t the easy way, and just pick up that drink.
I am so grateful that I was challenged early in sobriety to decide if I was willing to go to any lengths to find and maintain sobriety. That helped me develop the me that is willing to fight to become a stronger better person.
Today, most days the fighter is the stronger but even on the days when that tired person comes out I have my Higher Power, the program of A.A., my support group of friends, and the knowledge that I only have to do this for today. That is what gets me through those days. I am truely fortunate for what has been given to me. :sun2September 11, 2013 at 9:15 pm#160192AnonymousInactive
that which would stand in the way of your success — complacency
Complacency: a feeling of quiet pleasure or security, often while unaware of some potential danger, defect, or the like; self-satisfaction or smug satisfaction with an existing situation, condition, etc.
I missed that part of the quote. Upon re-reading it I realize that complacency is probably one the most dangerous threats to sobriety. A false sense of security, the thought that “I might not be an alcoholic”, “I could drink just one”, “it has been so long since I drank I can drink normally now”, “I know what I am doing”, “I don’t need to go to meetings anymore”, “I know the book forwards and backwards”, “why shouldn’t I hang out in bars, all my friends do”, “the newcomer can’t teach me anything, they just need to sit down and shut up”, “I’ve got this program down pat:, “I’ve worked the Steps once, why should I work them again”, etc… all of those “stinking thinking” type thoughts are signs of complacency that I need to be wary of.September 12, 2013 at 11:14 am#160190AnonymousInactive
I am amazed you have received no replies to this Nand, this is a great post full of things that those who seek long term recovery need.
Thanks for sharing.September 12, 2013 at 1:35 pm#160191AnonymousInactive
Thanks, good quote.September 12, 2013 at 1:48 pm#160193AnonymousInactive
I’m new but clean and sober over 7 months. For me I think there is a difference between complacency and doubt.. I allow myself to think whatever thought comes to mind, whether it is to doubt I am an alcoholic or to accept it. Thoughts are human and once I realized it was Ok to think whatever I wanted I then learned how to negate and NOT believe those damaging thoughts. For me I had to stop being so hard on myself for thoughts, inklings, cravings, etc.. afterall it’s actions that count, not thoughts (though some will argue). For me it came down to accepting each thought and allowing them in and sorting through the good and bad thoughts and never punishing myself for the bad but rewarding myself with the good thoughts.
I hope that made sense.
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