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- September 30, 2013 at 4:30 am#31134AnonymousInactive
The word is now out that I’m looking for a sponsor — three different ladies gave me their phone numbers and said to call them anytime. Complete strangers. But anyway someone is suppost to get with me about the sponsorship.
How strange that will seem to me. I’m the type of person that doesn’t really talk much and I feel really uncomfortable with people alot of the time. So I’m wondering (knowing me) how long is it going to take for me to really get to know this person.
I know that asking for help is vital to recovery (so i’ve been told) and sometimes I would rather take a beating than ask anyone for help. Is that a pride thing or just being shy?
Now when I drink, I have no trouble talking….but I’m pretty sure I’m suppose to ask for the help BEFORE I drink….that’s the whole ideal, isn’t it?
i would really love to be sitting on a beach some where with a margarita, feeling the sun shine on my face and not having a care in the world! Such a daydreamer!!
well, it’s obvious i’m bored. this has not really been a very worthy “thread”…..sorry about that.
I’ll let you know how it goes.September 30, 2013 at 5:53 am#164769AnonymousInactive
Asking for help is a huge STENGTH…it may appear a weakness at first …but asking for help and then receiving “graciously ” is a total f’n GIFT…and how it works..
it makes me feel so good to read your post Movin…Its OK not to know…to NOT have any answers!!!!! It will help you so much just having other people in theprogram to talk to!!
love northSeptember 30, 2013 at 12:10 pm#164770AnonymousInactive
Movin On – Good for you! I’ve been going for three months and I’ve been too chicken to ask. I’ve gotten lots of phone numbers, but they’re from women who have around the same amount of sober time as me.
If you find one, tell me your secret (except for the obvious, like asking lol)September 30, 2013 at 1:12 pm#164768AnonymousInactive
You don’t have to worry about disclosing deep dark secrets to your sponsor. Your sponsor is there to help you work The Steps. At least you will be able to work the first three Steps with her if Steps 4 and 5 is worrying you.
After the first three Steps you can decide how you want to proceed.September 30, 2013 at 1:24 pm#164771AnonymousInactive
No thread is unworthy and I think this is a great question.
My sponser approached me…in retrospect I wish that I had some time to watch the people in the rooms to find someone more like me. My sponser is a lovely woman but I don’t have much in common with her and her views are very different than mine.
My advice to you is slow down…go to meetings…if you feel the overwhelming need to drink…call the numbers on your list till you find someone to talk to…As long as you don’t drink you are doing everything right! There is rarely one solution to a problem….Best of luck
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