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    Hello all. I previously posted this in a daily support thread…but it was suggested that I may get more experienced responses here. I’ve been sober for almost 5 months, (Nov 1st), and have been living with my boyfriend of one year for about two months now.

    Hey guys. I’m kind of having a bad day…i’m not tempted to drink, it’s a different kind of “bad day.”

    Anyway, I was just wondering what you guys think of my situation. As I’ve said before, when I stopped drinking my boyfriend did as well. I never said “You can’t drink”…he willingly stopped, said he would no longer drink, that it wasn’t a big deal to him, etc. It was obvious from the begining that our relationship simply wouldn’t work if alcohol was involved in ANY way. It was obvious that I couldn’t be exposed to it at all; especially early on. He doesn’t have a problem with drinking, but when we first met he went out a few nights a week with his friends, and drank a fair amount. As I’ve mentioned earlier I moved in with him about 2 months ago and it’s been going great.

    Well, this past Saturday was his 10 year high school reunion. He asked if I wanted to go but I had no interest what so ever in going. He didn’t push it at all, if anything I felt like he maybe didn’t want me to go.

    So he goes…and while I normally LOVE my alone time, I felt sick to my stomach thinking that he would possibly go to this reunion and drink. It’s difficult for me to comprehend why that bothered me so much. It just did. AND it’s extremely, EXTREMELY triggering to me. He is always super attentive with text messaging, etc. Well some time around 9pm the texts stopped. I didn’t hear from him until the next morning. I was absolutely IRATE. I just knew that he had gone and gotten drunk. The thought of him being around girls he used to know in HS didn’t bother me in the LEAST…but the idea of him going and drinking, while knowing how it would effect me, killed me.

    So today I’m on facebook and see that one of his friends posted some pictures, one of which was of him holding a drink. I totally lost it. I was pissed off as all hell and suddenly felt sick to my stomach. I immediately sent him a txt asking if he drank at the reunion to which he said, “i did” He told me that he realized that after Sat night that it was something he didn’t miss, never wanted to do again, etc. I just can’t help but be…extremely mad…and hurt.

    Am I being unreasonable? I feel like a damn crazy person. I mean, I can honestly handle just about anything…but him going out and drinking is something that I just CANNOT handle. I told him that, threatened to move out, etc. I feel like I am overeacting…but at the same time I guess I can’t help how I feel.

    What do you guys think?


    This was last Saturday and I have since calmed down. Him and I have discussed it and he has apologized and said that it will never happen again. I just don’t want to feel like I’m asking too much.

    For some reason it is still bothering me…I can’t seem to shake it completely…I just keep thinking about what was going through his mind when he decided to drink.

    Thanks in advance for any advice/experience/opinions!

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