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- September 25, 2013 at 1:12 pm#31076AnonymousInactive
Hi all, yeah I’m starting yet again another campaign to attempt to stop the booze. Going to try to avoid all the triggers and just remember WHY I’m doing it *to improve my lifestyle, happiness and health*… anyone have any suggestions *I’d be glad to hear several* on what I should do while I’m on this campaign that could assist me in not drinking/smoking anymore? Would just love to hear it, thanks.September 25, 2013 at 1:29 pm#163598AnonymousInactive
Paulos I will share with you what the doctor who is a specialist in addicitons & alcoholism told me.
He told me to continue to smoke until I was alcohol free for a year, then quit smoking, he said that to try quitting both at the same time could result in failure for both.
Well I listened to him, I have not drank in over a year and have not smoked for a week today.
Here is another suggestion that may help with not drinking, every time you even think about a drink get on line here at 12 Step National Meetings or any other site on the net that alcoholics help each other in recovery.
I could not quit on my own, it took me asking for the help of others and doing the things they suggested to do for me to get and stay sober.September 25, 2013 at 2:13 pm#163605AnonymousInactive
Hm, ok, but the problem is doing one of them usually resulted in oozing into the next bad habit. Example if I had a few beers I’d say “Lemme have a smoke yeaaa”, and if I had a smoke I would say “I should have a beer, yeaa…” …lol, it’s sick I know.September 25, 2013 at 2:41 pm#163597AnonymousInactive
different people react differently – I was just like you, I had to stop smoking and drinking at the same time. The two were so linked together for me, I just knew it had to be like that. I’ve “slipped” a couple of times with the smoking since then, and every time, suddenly my drinking-sobriety has felt a hell of a lot less solid.
And as for the rest – agree with Tazman. It can really help to do this with others. It’s like training for a sports event – it’s a lonely road if you have to do it all alone. “Campaign” is a tricky word – a lot of people have found that if you think about sobriety as a fight, or a war, it can make it more difficult.
Maybe it’s like playing golf – be focussed and determined, but relaxed… Another sports analogy! Don’t know where they’re all coming from.
Good luck, and keep posting!
NLSeptember 25, 2013 at 2:51 pm#163599AnonymousInactive
Paulos do you live in a brewery?
If you do not buy beer, you will not have beer.
There are several easy steps to not drink:
1. Get rid of all booze in your house. (You do this)
2. Do not go to the store to buy beer.
3. Do not go to a bar to drink beer.
4. Do not let a frieind or relative bring you beer.
5. Do not pick up a beer.
6. Do not open a beer.
These are all things that are very simple and if you want to stop drinking more then you want to drink you can do.
Print out what not to do, make copies, tape a copy on very door in your house where you have to see it before you go anywhere.
Wrap all your money in a copy of the do not do list.
The only person who can get Paulos drunk is Paulos!
Here is a great to do list.
1.When ever you light a cigarrette get on 12 Step National Meetings and read about how alcoholism kills and tell people you do not want to drink.
2. When ever you think about having a drink read the do not do list and then get on 12 Step National Meetings and read about how alcoholism kills and tell people you do not want to drink.
Easy to do Paulos if you REALLY want to stop.
I would suggest going to a support group but I know from talking to you in the past that is not an option for you.September 25, 2013 at 3:24 pm#163606AnonymousInactive
Yeah nolonger you’re right, and taz I’m sorry to say I live in a alcoholic scene, my mother drinks a lot so there is wine/beer that I have access to. Is it wrong morally for me to fail so easily because the alcohol is just right in front of me?September 25, 2013 at 3:48 pm#163603AnonymousInactiveQuote:Is it wrong morally for me to fail so easily because the alcohol is just right in front of me?
First, I wouldn’t confuse drinking with moralilty. We have a disease.
Second, yeah, that is kind of a cop out. There’s bars and liquor sstores all over. As well as beer commercials on TV.
If you want to quit drinking, you have to want to quit drinking. You have to want it a lot. If you don’t, any excuse will work, because you don’t want to quit.September 25, 2013 at 3:55 pm#163594AnonymousInactive
Glad to see you are trying again….:)
Pray….even if you do not believe
“God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I can not change
the courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference”
Say that each time you want to drink
over and over until the urge abates.
BlessingsSeptember 25, 2013 at 4:12 pm#163600AnonymousInactive
Is it wrong morally for me to fail so easily because the alcohol is just right in front of me?
As Glassprisoner said, alcoholism is not a morality issue, it is a disease.
Paulos let me ask a simple question, I am powerless over alcohol, are you?September 25, 2013 at 6:43 pm#163604AnonymousInactive
Smoking is deadly so I think it is a good idea to give that up along with fighting the crippling illness of alcoholism. But as others have said, it may be easier said than done. Nothing is impossible when you choose to live the wonder of life rather than the slow suicide that our addictions promise.September 25, 2013 at 8:33 pm#163607AnonymousInactive
Wow already had an urge, amazin’… but didn’t do anything, which is a good sign… was almost like an ache to want to drink/smoke. I don’t think I’m powerless over alcohol Taz, but I sure struggle with it.September 25, 2013 at 8:42 pm#163608AnonymousInactive
In the case of the urge it was like uh… an EXCITEMENT just waiting to explode to get a drink/smoke…September 26, 2013 at 12:10 am#163595AnonymousInactive
Yes, I know that feeling. Urges. I was so powerless over those urges. Before my last drink in 2004, I got the urge to drink every day. My willpower not to drink only lasted a few days. Not until I change my thinking and I surrounded and decided to go to any length, that’s when change became possible. I had to Face the fact, I was powerless over alcohol, people, places and things.
IvanSeptember 26, 2013 at 10:49 am#163596AnonymousInactive
Hey Paulos –
I don’t have any great tips or tricks other than wanting it.
I want so much to see you come through this. It’s harder when the alcoholic drank at home. At least, that’s my unsolicited conclusion.
I didn’t. I drank everywhere else.
My home isn’t a trigger for me.
It’s my … lair … my safehaven.
What would help make your house/room/whatever your fortress? Instead of a trap>?September 26, 2013 at 11:30 am#163601AnonymousInactive
I don’t think I’m powerless over alcohol Taz, but I sure struggle with it.
Paulos can you drink one beer today and not have another?
Can you not drink for a week? A year?
Can you drink 1/2 a beer and leave the rest?
I can not do any of the above.
I know I can not drink like other people, I am an alcoholic.
Paulos as long as you beleive you have power over alcohol you will not stop drinking.
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